Sometimes the heart doesn’t know what it wants until it finds what it wants.
In his heart a man plans his course, but the LORD determines his steps.
The secret isn’t to find someone you love spending time with - I love spending time with a lot of people. The secret isn’t to find someone that you find attractive - I find a lot of people attractive for many different reasons. The secret isn’t to find someone who is nice - there are tons of nice people in the world. The secret is to find someone who wants exactly what you want. Someone who is ready to give you all they’ve got, and in turn be ready to accept all the love you have to give. The world is filled with people in relationship teeter-totters of “loves you more” & “I have to act mean so they will like me back” or “I am just not ready”. Please do not waste any more of your precious time. You are an amazing creature. You deserve to be loved until your insides melt. Don’t give up on all the things you want. When you meet the right person you will have zero doubt in your mind. Zero.
(via poeticheartache)
My philosophy right now.
Sometimes there is no next time, no time outs, no second chances, sometimes it’s now or never.
(via poeticheartache)
I understand feeling as small and as insignificant as humanly possible. And how it can actually ache in places you didn’t know you had inside you. And it doesn’t matter how many new haircuts you get, or gyms you join, or how many glasses of chardonnay you drink with your girlfriends… you still go to bed every night going over every detail and wonder what you did wrong or how you could have misunderstood. And how in the hell for that brief moment you could think that you were that happy. And sometimes you can even convince yourself that he’ll see the light and show up at your door. And after all that, however long all that may be, you’ll go somewhere new. And you’ll meet people who make you feel worthwhile again. And little pieces of your soul will finally come back. And all that fuzzy stuff, those years of your life that you wasted, that will eventually begin to fade.
SOCIALLY AWKWARD
- You check your phone, because you have nothing to contribute to the conversation.
- Wait for the right time to say something, you get interrupted. Twice.
- Someone you vaguely know is walking in front of you. You maintain distance.
- Hold the door for some. They’re slightly too far away.
- Someone comes online, you say “hey”, they go offline.
- You go in for the high-five. Other person isn’t looking.
- Accidentally look someone in the eye. Pretend to look past them.
- You say something stupid. You play it down, but everyone sees your face going red.
- You say “hi” to someone. It comes out as a whisper.
- Your friends formed a circle while you were gone. You can’t fit and end up standing slightly askew.
- Waiting by yourself for friends. Pretend you’re texting.
- You tell a hilarious joke. Nobody laughs.
- You’re in class and you want to cough. Some other person just coughed, now you have to wait.
- Walk into the restrooms and the stalls are full; pretend you only came here to wash your hands then leave.
- The person in front is walking slightly slower than you are. You walk at an uncomfortable speed to get past them.
What ever happened to predictability?
I came in to work this afternoon fully intending to finish some homework. But Facebook and Twitter interrupted so I feel the nagging need to blog. Today I’m making a Frenemy-esque blog. So who can’t I get off my mind today? Steve Hale. Now don’t sit there racking your brain trying to think of who this hunk could be. He’s not real. At least not in reality. But remember that little treasure called Full House where the milk man, the paperboy and evening TV were always waiting just around the bend? Well that’s where Mr. Hale was born. He’s the figment of a Hollywood producer’s imagination that swept DJ Tanner off her feet for multiple seasons. Steve was DJ’s refrigerator raiding, not so bright but still lovable, alpha male boyfriend played by actor Scott Weinger. He was consistently making a fool of himself on the show and portrayed a stereotypical meathead who always made me wonder how he kept a girl like DJ Tanner interested. But nevertheless he did. For 32 episodes. I think I’d date fictional Steve in real life. He might have been dumb as rocks but I think he genuinely cared for DJ. And they had an interesting relationship. I’d have to break out the old VHS to relive and remember why those two broke up but if my memory serves me right, they even broke up in a cute way. It was on top of a mountain. In the cool, crisp air. They both were sporting flannel and the yellow 90’s hiking boots….or at least that’s how I imagine it. And they were both extremely sad that that chapter of their lives was ending, but they knew it was for the best. They knew they had to move on. I think their break up was beautiful. It was hard but they didn’t regret it. And to me, DJ didn’t seem to dwell on every memory they had together. After she said goodbye to Steve, she shed maybe one tear, took a deep breath in, looked out at the beautiful landscape and believed she would be fine. And viola. Hollywood magic. She was fine. She could move on in her life. And move on she did. She moved onto Viper, the rocker boy who always seemed to hold the strings to her heart in the palm of his hand. And then there was the rich, nerdy boy DJ dated for a few episodes. I think her dating trends are interesting and I’m going to blog about that soon. And maybe I’ll devote a bunch of this blog-o-sphere rambling stuff to Full House alone. I think a pretty interesting world revolves around that show. But. Back to the madness. I know DJ’s breakup bliss doesn’t happen in real life. I know it’s fake. But I’d like to breathe in like DJ and move on. And with the past week behind me that’s exactly what I’ve been doing. I know I’ll probably relapse again soon but for now I’m good.
The biggest heartaches in my life have all been because I wanted people to love me more than they were willing or able to. People are not perfect. They will sometimes take your love and give nothing back or, worse yet, use it against you. But they are still all there is. Loving one another is our only reason for being.
Thanks Dolly.
“Where you used to be, there is a hole in the world, which I find myself constantly walking around in the daytime, and falling in at night. I miss you like hell.”
Yep. Pretty much.



